This year, my children asked for many boxes of Lego. No wonder. As far as I know Lego is the only toy manufacturer to use non-toxic plastic so I buy them for any occasion and to any kid. But this year we decided to add a Wii U.
We usually take them to the toyshop in December and observe their reactions while walking along the aisles to spot the toys that interested them the most. This year and as usual our children were mesmerised in front of the Lego corner. And surprisingly they were also very into the Wii U that was in demo. They were even trying to follow the dance steps. It is pretty expensive but I think it would be a good way for them to enjoy a great moment of complicity with their daddy. And just one present under the tree for both of them wouldn’t be fair; we decided to add a set of Lego for each.
But on Wednesday, I was planning to shop my children’s Christmas presents that day – yeah we must be the very few who buy their Christmas tree and gifts mid December. I am pretty sure by the time we finally got our tree, most people’s Christmas trees all dried out or got all dusty if in plastic. Year after year, I am surprised by all those Christmas decorations you can see at stores while Halloween is not even over! Soon, we would see people carrying their Christmas tree on the roof of their car after they returned from summer vacations. Anyway, I saw this posted on Facebook.
I had mixed feelings. Christmas is the only time of the year we truly “spoil” our children. We barely buy them any toy if it’s not their birthday or Christmas. We are more like buying them books and other colouring books all year long. But Lego sets and dolls are reserved for special occasions.
So I felt like we are trying to take away this only moment we can tell ourselves
“It’s going to be lot of expenses on the spot but children deserve it as they behaved well. And hell, I just want make them happy!”
Seeing their face lighting up of joy as they discover what Santa brought them is just PRICELESS. And I just don’t want any morons to tell me what I should do this time of the year. We are judged every day for the decision we make.
Oh you have your organic veggies delivered at your door, how lazy you are!
If I were you I would have more plants on this low wall.
But on the other hand I couldn’t help thinking of the much less fortunate children around the world. I grew up in a very modest family and I remember how I was feeling when I was invited to friends’ house. I was lurking at their toys and wished so hard that I could have one of them.
We didn’t celebrate Christmas at my house. So I didn’t understand why an old man would bring toys to children who have a decorated tree in their house and not me, just because I didn’t have one.
I remember that one year there was a TV ad inviting you to call Santa himself. The number was of course a super surcharged one but I didn’t know that so I was dialling the number for a couple of weeks – yes to make sure Santa noted the toys I wanted for Christmas. The toys never reached our house but the hefty telephone bill did arrive…
So I deeply sympathise. However because of this reason should we ‘deprive’ our children during these few moments in our life where we can truly let it go?
Of course not! If we can afford, we should be in our rights to spoil our children as we see fit. But if we can’t, we should not feel bad because we can’t buy this latest released super fancy toy that when you look at it, it would bring you your morning coffee. We work darned hard every day to give our children the best. Ok best can look crap to someone else, it’s all subjective we agree.We should not be ashamed or embarrassed for what we can or cannot give them.
So let’s just split the difference. For those who face a child feeling discriminated, tell him/her Santa doesn’t exist. After all, it’s a holiday invited by Coca Cola. And it wouldn’t traumatise him/her, children are very quick to get over this kind of situation. They are so resilient. Trust me, I have been there. They will discover it sooner or later anyway.
How horrible to let them discover you have been lying to them that long!
Wouldn’t it be a relief somehow?
And I am pretty sure they have a friend who doesn’t celebrate Christmas. Discrimination doesn’t start from the bottom of the Christmas tree. How discriminatory is Santa towards those children from another faith! And chances that such friends give the game away is pretty high. One of my daughter’s friends said out loud that Santa does not exist last year. Luckily or unluckily – because this would bring in the discussion so many parents are afraid of having someday with their growing children – my daughter didn’t hear her. Or didn’t she want to listen the terrible truth?
As far as we are concerned, we will keep on trying to make them happy as long as we can and as we see it fit but there is no way gifts would heap under the tree. And if we feel like doing so, we will reserve the rights to without the obligation to justify. But the above advice is a wise one that need to be spread around for the more fortunate parents.
I don’t know for you but I look forward to the aftermath of ‘Santa does not exist!’ I will have the pleasure to point out who was REALLY putting the gifts under the Christmas tree…
Santa is no longer watching but mommy does, always!